As I sat down to prep this final podcast episode of 2021- I really paused and reflected on the question- what do you need?
What Do You Need?
What do you need in December? In a time of year that often involves increased dysregulation and chaos. There are more responsibilities this time of year. You might feel more pressure to have a family that looks or acts a certain way.
There are definitely more opportunities to enforce our own boundaries.
And almost certainly more opportunities to grieve that this isn’t life you imagined.
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Both Places Are OK
Maybe you’re realizing for the first time that you can grieve that truth while also being OK.
I remember the first time I consciously realized that I was sitting squarely in ‘wow everything is awful right now’ while at the same time still being so content and even grateful for the different layers of goodness in my life.
Maybe you cannot even imagine that being true.
Both places are OK.
You are Exactly Where you Need to Be.
Maybe this is the year you’ve come into connection with the truth that you are not alone.
You may indeed be extremely lonely- parenting kids with big behaviors can be traumatically lonely- but you are not alone.
Maybe this is the year you’ve come into connection to the truth that there is nothing wrong with you. Or your child.
Maybe this is the year you’ve come into connection with that the truth that there is nothing wrong with you and there are always things we could work on to do better.
I know that’s true for me.
Nothing Wrong With You (or me!)
I really believe, finally, that there is absolutely nothing wrong with me.
I also know that there are still many, many moments when I get dysregulated, when my hurting inner parts get touched, awakened, and overwhelmed.
When this happens, I sometimes behave in a way that hurts me or the people I love.
There’s nothing wrong with me and I can keep fiercely working to care for my own inner world so that I don’t hurt the people I love.
That is my wish for you, too.
Cannot Change the Hard
There’s very little I can do to change what’s hard in your life. You know that. I know that.
What I can do, what I strive to do every day, is to show up in your life- whether that’s in your earbuds on this podcast- in your inbox, in The Club where we are getting to know each other so well, or maybe you’re even someone I know really really well.
Regardless of how we are connected, me and you- we are connected.
Every day I strive to show up in your life and remind you of your infinite worth.
I strive to remind you that you are worthy of compassion.
I strive to remind you that you are a perfectly imperfect human doing their absolute very best. And so are your kids.
The Hard Can Feel Less Hard
Helping you see your own infinite worth and how you are deserving of self-compassion doesn’t change anything about what’s hard in your life.
But over time, it will help you ride the rollercoaster of hard a little more smoothly.
So that’s what I do. I try to show up and tenaciously prove up to you that you are good and worth of self-compassion. That all behavior makes sense- yours and your child’s and really, everyone else’s.
What I Needed
Obviously, as I sat down to ponder what do you need from this final episode of 2021, I ended up realizing I really have no idea what you need!
This reflection actually turned out to be more of what I needed. Perhaps it ended up being what you needed, too.
Ready for a Break!
The podcast will be back in January. I’m not going to promise you when in January because I’m just not sure yet! In the next few weeks, I’m focusing on my family, my incoming cohort of Being With, and all the parents in The Club. I’m focusing on play and rest and the Nutcracker and spending days in my pjs and maybe even going downhill skiing if we get any good snow.
Y’all I really seriously started this podcast on a whim. I was going to do Facebook lives and I thought I’d throw the audios into a podcast feed and wha-la. Podcast.
I did that. For four or five episodes.
Then I realized I kinda hated those Facebook Lives but I loved podcasting.
This makes sense because I love listening to podcasts and delight in feeling as though total strangers are my friends because I hear them so often in my ear buds.
I delight in the idea that maybe you feel like we know each other.
It Feels so Good to be Known.
For a podcast on a whim, I’m pretty darn proud of what we’ve created here. The guests I’ve been lucky to host, the new friends I’ve made, the laughter, and the emails I get from you.
Thank you for bringing me on your journey and thank you for being a part of mine. I’ll see you back here in 2022!!!
Robyn
Would you like to explore a complete paradigm-shift on how we see behavior? You can watch my F R E E 45(ish) minute-long masterclass on What Behavior Really Is and How to Change It.
Just let me know where to send the links!
