Feel Better, Even If Nothing Changes {EP 176}


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Is it possible to feel better even if your child’s behavior doesn’t change?

Even if the stress doesn’t change?

Theoretically, yes.

Your chronic watchdog or possum state means you are in chronic protection mode. Is it possible to shift out of protection mode before the chaos in your life changes?

That’s exactly what we address in today’s episode!

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The two different paths you can take to feel better (come out of protection mode) even if the chaos in your life never changes
  • The neuroscience behind how connection and co-regulation (for you!) becomes twice as important for your ability to stay more regulated even when things are really hard
  • Resources to help you feel better (shift out of protection) that you can do by yourself, as well as resources that are based in connection and co-regulation

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    Secure Relating with Guests Sue & Ann from Therapist Uncensored {EP 175}


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    Settle in for a fun and inspiring chat with hosts from Therapist Uncensored and authors of the new release Secure Relating, Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley.

    In this episode, you’ll learn

    • How responding to our children’s (and partner’s) needs in the present moment, instead of from a place of anxious or avoidant states, can improve our relationships
    • About the intersection of attachment and trauma in our systems of care- like the child welfare and mental health systems
    • How much hope there is when we shift to looking at attachment in the here and now instead of based on our histories

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    This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

    Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Google, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

    Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

    Robyn

    Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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      Settle in for a fun and inspiring chat with hosts from Therapist Uncensored and authors of the new release Secure Relating, Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley.

      In this episode, you’ll learn

      • How responding to our children’s (and partner’s) needs in the present moment, instead of from a place of anxious or avoidant states, can improve our relationships
      • About the intersection of attachment and trauma in our systems of care- like the child welfare and mental health systems
      • How much hope there is when we shift to looking at attachment in the here and now instead of based on our histories

      Resources Mentioned on the Podcast

      • Resources mentioned in the podcast go here

      Listen on the Podcast

      This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

      Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Google, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

      Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

      Robyn

      Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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      When It’s Hard To Keep Offering Connection {EP 174}


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      I’m sure you’ve had moments (days, weeks, months) where it felt hard, maybe even impossible, to keep offering connection to your child.

      It is hard to offer connection to someone who seems to constantly reject it!

      If it feels hard to keep offering your child connection, I actually want you to shift your focus. Don’t prioritize offering connection to your child. Instead think about:

      • Who can offer YOU connection?
      • How can you offer connection to yourself?
      • Who could you offer connection to who is able to receive it, and offer connection back?

      You’ll also learn how glitter boots are related to giving and receiving connection! Resources Mentioned on the Podcast

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      This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

      Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Google, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

      Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

      Robyn

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        Are Connected Kids Always Cooperative? {EP 173}


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        If regulated, connected kids who feel safe do well, does that mean connected kids are always cooperative?

        Definitely not! In fact, there’s a level of connection to others- and to themselves! – that invites in the safety to be UNcooperative!

        In this episode, you’ll learn

        • How safety can invite both cooperative and UNcooperative behavior
        • Why too much cooperative would actually be a bad thing
        • How parenting with co-regulation and connection helps kids become more connected to themselves

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        This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

        Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Google, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

        Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

        Robyn

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          What Does It Mean To ‘Heal’? {EP 172}


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          The question of ‘can I heal’ or ‘can my child heal’ or ‘how do I (or my child) heal’ is a tricky one. 

          Healing is a word that gets used a lot without really pausing to ask ourselves what it actually means. 

          If we are aiming for a nebulous goal that hasn’t been defined, it will feel impossible to reach. Impossible tasks often feel hopeless.

          In this episode, you’ll learn

          • Why it’s most useful to stay focused on widening our window of stress tolerance
          • How co-regulation contributes to healing
          • How memory relates to trauma symptoms and healing

          Resources Mentioned on the Podcast

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          This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

          Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Google, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

          Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

          Robyn

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