Why Helpers Burn Out- and what to do about it {EP 262}


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The helpers ~ therapists, coaches, teachers, advocates ~ are burning out at alarming rates. We talk endlessly about self-care, caseload management, and having better boundaries but almost nobody is addressing the root cause. 

This is a special episode that I recorded for all the professionals who listen. All the helpers who show up day after day because they love to help the parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors. All the helpers who are tired and wondering how much longer they can keep doing this. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why working with clients in chronic protection mode pulls helpers into protection mode too – and how that’s the real starting point of burnout
  • Applying the “all behavior makes sense” framework to your own nervous system responses changes everything about how you work
  • The skill that actually prevents burnout – and why bubble baths and calendar blocking aren’t it

And if you want to learn more, you can join 4000+ other professionals and me in Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors- a 4 part free audio training for professionals!

Resources Mentioned on the Podcast

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Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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When It’s Not Working: Troubleshooting {EP 261}


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You’ve learned about the nervous system, you’re trying to co-regulate, you’re thinking about felt safety and connection — and the behavior is still happening! WHY?!?! This episode is a troubleshooting guide for exactly that moment. Instead of going back to the drawing board, we’re going deeper into the same map: getting curious about regulation, felt safety, connection, and skills to figure out what the nervous system actually needs.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why the question is never “what consequence haven’t I tried yet?” — and what to ask instead
  • How to troubleshoot each of the four conditions that need to be in place for behavior to be okay: regulation, felt safety, connection, and skills
  • Why a child can “know” a skill and still not be able to access it — and what scaffolding that skill actually looks like

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

Podcast Episodes

Books

Free Resources

Paid / Member Resources

  • The Club resource library — includes the troubleshooting worksheet and the Growing a Child’s Owl Brain with Felt Safety packet/workbook (~40 pages) RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
  • Professional Immersion Program — students and alumni also have access to the troubleshooting worksheet RobynGobbel.com/Immersion

In-Person Trainings

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Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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No Strategy Will Fix This: What Actually Helped Instead {EP 260}


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Listen in on a conversation I have with a Club member whose family lived through years of intense, violent, and deeply isolating behavior…and eventually found their way to something different. It’s a story about holding onto the truth of who your child is, even when everything in front of you makes that feel impossible.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why “just tell me what to do” doesn’t work in the hardest situations, and what actually helps instead
  • How holding onto your child’s true essence can anchor you, even in the most dysregulated moments
  • The small, doable shifts that can begin to change things (even before behavior improves)

Listen on the Podcast

This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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