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When Watchdogs are Volcanoes: Activation below the Surface {EP 244}

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Is your child suddenly quiet… but you can feel something bubbling under the surface?

They aren’t yelling, running, or arguing like usual- but you can tell their system is still fired up and on high alert.

Today, we’re talking about that “quiet volcano” version of watchdog energy. It looks calm. Still. Almost possum-like.

But inside? Their nervous system is holding a TON of activation right under the surface.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to tell the difference between true shutdown and contained watchdog energy, why some kids start holding everything inside, and how to help that “stuck” activation soften and move in safe, co-regulated ways.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why watchdog energy can go quiet and look totally still, even though it’s NOT regulated
  • How to figure out what’s really going on underneath the “calm” exterior
  • What to do when your child is a volcano on the inside, including simple movement-based strategies that help the nervous system come back into rhythm and relational safety

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This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Are you searching for a community of parents who get it?Who offer connection, co-regulation?A community where the moment you show up, you feel seen, known, and not alone? We are waiting for you in The Club! This virtual community for parents of kids impacted by trauma (and the professionals who support them!!) opens for new members every three months!We are waiting for you!
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