The Story Under the Story

Adoption rewrites a story.

This often becomes a story so full of confusion that no one knows what to say or do. There’s a story that’s hiding…and it seems like it might be scary- I mean, why else would it be hiding?

But it isn’t scary.

It’s not scary because its true. 

It’s just you (or your child)! You (and your child!) aren’t scary.

We can find the story.  Gently. Lovingly.

And then burst it wide open in all it’s complete wonderfulness.

There’s a story in adoption…

a child was born to one family, but then becomes a part of another.  It’s the story we talk about.  The story that’s easy to see.  We get so focused on the story we see that we stop noticing the story under the story.

It’s the story under the story that’s true.  It’s the story that connects us to ourselves.  To each other.  To our infinite worth.  We might not even know that there is a story under the story.  But there is!!!  And when we find this story, we find ourselves.  And then we find each other.  And if we’re parents- we can find our children and they can find us.  Things might not get easier…but they certainly become more filled with ease.

The story under the story is there whether we acknowledge it or not. We might as well throw it a party and welcome it.  In all it’s glittery glory.

Getting your story our clears out the muck.

You’ll move from not knowing how to see yourself on paper (or anywhere else)

….to seeing how wonderful and interesting and important you are.

You’ll see yourself as powerful

You’ll begin to use language in a way that shows both you and the world who you are.

You know how when you get new sneakers and you just want to go for a run?

You feel so bouncy and held.

Truth is beauty.

So- how do we get to the truth with language?

For some people this is terrifying. 

But it never shows anything bad because it can’t.

The truth of you is inherently wonderful.

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Are you curious to discover the story under your story?  To give the story breath?  To throw it into the world like fists full of glitter?

Or….maybe that doesn’t thrill you that much (I get it…I’ve been there, too…) but you are feeling a little nudge because a part of you knows that getting to know your own story will help you connect to the story under your child’s story.  To welcome them fully and completely.  To allow them the space to be seen- ALL parts of them.

Anne Heffron and I have come together to create something that we think will be stunning.  Anne has a gorgeous writing practice (I’ve done it!!!) that supports in the discovery of yourself, of your voice.  As we were talking about what we wanted to create for you, she said “WAIT!  What if we do my writing workshop???”

We stretched it out like silly putty and molded it slightly to be just the right experience specifically for everyone touched by adoption.

This six week program will begin on Thursday December 10, 2020.  We’ll take some time off over the holiday season and reconnect again in January!

If you’re feeling a rumbling somewhere in your body that you are ready to breathe life into the story under your story…and your child’s….go check out the six-week workshop and see what you think!  CLICK HERE to The Story Under the Story with Robyn Gobbel & Anne Heffron.

Robyn