Space for us all to grieve
I needed to talk through what I was feeling about grief, privilege, and how the privileged will hold our grief…and everyone else’s. I really see no other way. But I […]
Entries by Robyn Gobbel
The Hub, The Rim, The Both And
“…Our mind can be pictured as a bicycle wheel, with the hub at the center and spokes radiating at the outer rim. The rim represents anything we can pay attention […]
Seeing Behaviors as a Stress Response
In the midst of the global crisis that is the pandemic COVID-19, I’m so grateful I can see behaviors through the lens of the stress response. Mine. And others. Otherwise, […]
All Of You…Come…
What if I told you all of you was welcome? I wanted to see…and know…every single part of you. The parts you love yourself. The parts you are proud of. […]
Regulated Connected Kids who Feel Safe Behave Well
No, really, they do. (We MAY have to adjust our definition of ‘behave well’ because we often have very inappropriate expectations for behaviors…but anyway….) Let’s break this down. Regulation. Without […]
X-Ray Vision Parenting
Behavior is simply the externalization of internal experience. What we SEE on the outside is only a clue to what is happening on the inside. Facial expressions. Hand gestures. Big […]
Being Not Doing- The fertile ground of therapy
Therapists and helpers are so committed to their craft and their clients. Our hearts to help and heal are enormous, and we’d do anything to help a client experience their […]
The Neurobiology of Being Human
Connection-based parenting (or trauma-informed parenting or parenting based on the neurobiology of being human???) gets this bad rap for being boundary-less parenting. How will kids ever learn the rules or […]
Going Beyond Trauma-Informed
“How do I know if this is a trauma related behavior or a normal kid behavior?” “Help me know how to respond to this behavior in my child with a […]
