Seeing Behaviors as a Stress Response
In the midst of the global crisis that is the pandemic COVID-19, I’m so grateful I can see behaviors through the lens of the stress response. Mine. And others. Otherwise, […]
Entries by Robyn Gobbel
All Of You…Come…
What if I told you all of you was welcome? I wanted to see…and know…every single part of you. The parts you love yourself. The parts you are proud of. […]
Regulated Connected Kids who Feel Safe Behave Well
No, really, they do. (We MAY have to adjust our definition of ‘behave well’ because we often have very inappropriate expectations for behaviors…but anyway….) Let’s break this down. Regulation. Without […]
X-Ray Vision Parenting
Behavior is simply the externalization of internal experience. What we SEE on the outside is only a clue to what is happening on the inside. Facial expressions. Hand gestures. Big […]
Being Not Doing- The fertile ground of therapy
Therapists and helpers are so committed to their craft and their clients. Our hearts to help and heal are enormous, and we’d do anything to help a client experience their […]
The Neurobiology of Being Human
Connection-based parenting (or trauma-informed parenting or parenting based on the neurobiology of being human???) gets this bad rap for being boundary-less parenting. How will kids ever learn the rules or […]
Going Beyond Trauma-Informed
“How do I know if this is a trauma related behavior or a normal kid behavior?” “Help me know how to respond to this behavior in my child with a […]
Stay on their Path
If I’m not fully committed to the process of unfolding, to solidly standing in “I wonder what is going to happen next” with a deep willingness to go where my […]
Connection and Safety is the Treatment
When we are with our people- our children, our clients, without judgment and without agenda, we are offering them a space within which their neurobiology could take a step toward […]
