Swap your shame shaming… for compassion & understanding

Wait what?  Compassion? Understanding? Toward shame?

I recently drove almost 30 miles while lug nuts flew off my front wheel, one by one- completely unbeknownst to me.

I knew something was wrong but wasn’t sure what.  The tire was round.  I checked.  But that’s all I knew.

I tried to get home but alas…eventually my wheel came right off and rolled away. It wasn’t the movie scene I’d always dreamed of reenacting.

If I had known just a teeny tiny bit more about how things work,

I would have known what to look for.  I wouldn’t have crossed my fingers and hoped I got home.

I might not have been able to fix the problem without help, but I definitely could have stopped it from getting worse.

When we understand the neurobiology of toxic shame,

we can stop the problem from getting worse.  And then your lug nuts won’t fly off.  And then your wheel.  While driving.

Thursdays…April 15, 22, & 29 ~ Live Meetings @ 1-2pm EDT

***plus pre-recorded video content to watch ahead of each meeting***

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You’re a helper, healer, or educator.

And you get to make these words mean whatever you want.  Parent?  Seems like a helper, healer, AND educator to me!  Accountant?  Well…my accountant is a HUGE help to me.  Therapist?  That one seems obvious (though this isn’t a therapist training).  Rock climber?  Maybe you’re spelunking to heal yourself.

What do I know?  You get to decide.

Shame resilience tools always fall a little flat for you.

You totally believe in vulnerability and owning your story.  You believe in letting shame breathe and receive connection.

But you can’t seem to do it.

Then you feel ashamed that you can’t get shame resilience quite right.

Ironic, eh?

It’s not that you’re doing it wrong…it’s that there a few steps missing before we can even begin to own our story.

When you know how things work…

you can clear up confusion and create a game plan.

You realize it’s not your fault. 

When you realize it’s not your fault, you can stay clear-headed enough to get curious

(huh…a lug nut is missing…)

and then clear-headed enough to make a decision that doesn’t result in your wheel rolling away from your car while you watch from the driver’s seat.

You’ve got to know to check the lug nuts. 

You’ve got to know lug nuts are important!  And that they exist.

And you’ve got to stay clear headed enough when things go wrong to stay connected to reality and not just muscle it home, on a wing and a prayer. 

Thursdays…April 15, 22, & 29 ~ Live Meetings @ 1-2pm EDT

***plus pre-recorded video content to watch ahead of each meeting***

My life’s work

is helping people see this.

What you offer

through social media is deeply impacting. What you are providing us matters. From a distance you have been teaching me this. So, so powerful.

~FB comment

Thank you

for taking time to blog, record/post on Facebook live, write, teach and invest. The seeds you scatter bear fruit in countless lives

~received in an email

“Can you hold

what Robyn Gobbel speaks about so often?  There is nothing wrong with you!

~The Whole Therapist podcast

Seriously…you just can’t wait any longer?

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Hey There…

             I’m Robyn!

I’ve studied toxic shame.

I teach about toxic shame (and all things relational neuroscience).

I’ve lived toxic shame.

I’ve gone with others into the depths of their toxic shame.

Understanding the neurobiology of toxic shame isn’t a magic trick- we can’t wave the wand and POOF it disappears.

I promise if I could do that, I would.

But 15 years with my butt on BOTH sides of the therapy room has shown me that understanding the neurobiology of toxic shame is a pretty crucial part of the journey.  Maybe not for everyone, but for most people.

I’ve been on a mission to make the goodness of therapy more accessible to folks.  Therapy–GOOD therapy–isn’t as accessible and available as we’d like to think.

This workshop isn’t therapy.  But I hope that it offers you something that you can receive without going to therapy….

the scientific proof that  there is nothing wrong with you.

Here’s what we’ll cover…

Why do we care

about the neurobiology of toxic shame?

Does learning about the science change anything about our shame???  (Hint…yes…)

You’ll watch a pre-recorded video (approximately 30 minutes) then we’ll come together on April 15 to discuss, ask questions, and individually journaling with some writing prompts.

What actually IS

the neurobiology of toxic shame?

We’ll get geeky-science here :) YES!  But- I promise it’ll make sense.

You’ll watch a pre-recorded video (approximately 30 minutes) then we’ll come together on April 22 to discuss, ask questions, and individually journaling with some writing prompts.

What are the risks

of releasing shame?

If there weren’t any risks, you would have done it by now.  Promise.

You’ll watch a pre-recorded video (approximately 20 minutes) then we’ll come together on April 29 to discuss, ask questions, and individually journaling with some writing prompts.

Come with Curiosity….

and an open mind.

is divided into three parts.

Each week, you’ll watch a pre-recorded video (approximately 30 minutes each).

On your own time!  Whenever you want!

Then we’ll come together (Thursdays, April 15, 22, & 29 1-2pm EDT)

for discussion, questions, and journaling through writing prompts.

Register today and you’ll be able to dive in and start watching the videos on April 5!

FAQs

When completing your purchase, you’ll create an account on Thinkific (the online course platform) where you login to access the connect-shop.  The recorded videos will be available beginning April 5th for you to watch and review on your own schedule.

The links to the live Zoom meetings are stored and available in the course- you’ll click on the link when it’s time to join on Thursdays.

The recordings from those live Zoom meetings will be uploaded and stored in the course as soon as they are ready.  All of the content will be available for you to watch and review until May 31, 2021.

I highly highly encourage that you to attend the Thursday group meetings for questions, discussion, and independent journaling!  I also know that life happens and things come up!  The recordings of the group meetings will be uploaded and stored in the course- it will always be easy to find and all in one place!

All the videos, including the pre-recorded videos and the recordings of the live group gatherings will be available for you to watch and review until May 31, 2021.

1pm Eastern = 12pm Central, 11am Mountain, 8am Pacific, 7am Alaska…

Need more help??  Here’s my favorite time zone converter.

Nope!  Robyn’s a therapist, but this isn’t therapy.  This connect-shop is an exploration into the neurobiology of shame, through teaching and writing.  You’ll probably experience some inner shifts!  But…it’s not therapy!

There are three parts to this connect-shop.  The course will open on April 5th for you to watch the short welcome video, download the workshops, and watch the pre-recorded video for Part 1.

On April 15, we’ll come together to discuss Part 1 and create space together to individually work on the writing prompts.

On April 22, we’ll come together to discuss Part 2 and create space together to individually work on the writing prompts.

On April 29, we’ll come together to discuss Part 3 and create space together to individually work on the writing prompts.

You’ll have access to all the pre-recorded videos, worksheets, and writing prompts beginning on April 5th and refunds are available for until April 10th.

Definitely an internet connection!!!  You’ll need to be on the internet to access all the pre-recorded videos as well as the live, weekly discussions.  A webcam will let us all SEE your infinite worth- but it’s not necessary.  I don’t need to see you to know your infinite worth.  I know you have infinite worth because you exist :)

Alrighty…here’s your last chance!

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What folks said the last time I taught this connect-shop

Your words were lovely and soft and validating.

 It was the most helpful training I’ve attended in years. 

~ Why We Hate participant

“Thank you for the light, wisdom and energy

you bring to the world!

~ Why We Hate participant

“That was awesome.

You know this is going to change the world right!?

~Why We Hate participant

“I so very much appreciated your training.

There were many moments during the training that I was given words to express the things my clients have been sharing

~Why we Hate Participant

I expected to be doing some other things during the training but

instead ended up with 6 pages of notes

and not accomplishing my multitasking goal.

~Why we Hate Participant