Boredom Triggers Dysregulation {Ep 267}


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When kids can’t tolerate boredom, it’s easy to forget to put on our X-ray vision goggles and chalk it up to too much screen time or even not enough gratitude. Our kids’ reaction to boredom triggers OUR watchdog brain! If we can invite our owl to come back, we will almost certainly see that boredom flips our kids’ nervous system into protection mode.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why boredom can trigger the nervous system to shift onto the protection pathway
  • How vulnerability in the nervous system (whether from ADHD, autism, trauma, or any other reason a kid has a vulnerable nervous system) impacts a child’s experience of boredom 
  • Practical, nervous-system-informed ways to gradually build your child’s boredom tolerance 

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Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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When Things Are Genuinely Impossible: One Dad’s Story {EP 266}

A dad – who is also a former foster youth and the director of non-profit supporting foster and adoptive families – shares an honest and tender conversation about what it’s actually like to parent kids with big, baffling behaviors when life is also impossibly hard. He shares the staggering losses his family has carried over the past few years, how he found The Baffling Behavior Show, Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors, and The Club…and what has genuinely helped him keep going. This one is for every parent who has felt utterly alone in this journey- AND for every professional who needs a reminder of what the real work actually is.

In this episode you’ll learn:

  • Why being seen by people who truly get it matters more than any tool or strategy
  • How learning to receive and offer presence (not just advice) changes the way you show up everywhere- with your kids, at work, and even in a Whataburger drive-through
  • What it looks like to hold hope and honesty at the same time- staying grounded in how hard things really are without sliding into toxic positivity or despair

Listen on the Podcast

This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Nothing Changed & Everything Changed – A mom interview {EP 265}


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A single mom who adopted boy-girl twins through foster care shares about her slow, almost invisible journey from survival mode to genuinely delighting in her now-13-year-old kids. Nothing shifted in one big moment.  Yet somehow, everything changed.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why the shift from “I have to fix this right now” to “I can just be with you in this” is the thing that changes everything — for your kids and for you
  • How letting go of performing shame (in school meetings, with professionals, for society) freed up the energy to actually parent
  • Why the biggest leaps — academic, emotional, social — consistently happened during the stretches when they stopped trying to fix anything and just existed together

Listen to the Podcast

This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Responding to the Judgement and Advice from Others {EP 264}


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Parenting kids with big, baffling behaviors is hard enough. THEN someone has opinions about it. This episode breaks down why people say the things they say (hint: it’s about their nervous system, not your parenting), what’s actually happening in you when judgment lands, and how to respond- or not respond- in a way that protects your own regulation.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why unsolicited advice and criticism are almost always a projection from the other person’s protection brain 
  • How to recognize when explaining yourself won’t actually help 
  • Practical ways to respond to judgment (included below!!)

Scripts

  • “Thank you. I’m comfortable with our parenting decisions.”
  • “I hear you. I need to tend to my child right now.”

Neutral / Redirect

  • “We’ve got it covered, thanks.”
  • “We have a lot of support around this.”
  • “I have people I go to for that.”
  • “That’s not something I’m looking for input on.”
  • “We’re working with someone on it.”

Warmer but Still a Clear Boundary

  • “I appreciate that you care. We’re good.”
  • “Thanks for thinking of us — we’ve got support.”

Confident / Firmer

  • “I’m not looking for advice, but thank you.”
  • “That’s not actually something I’m open to feedback on.”
  • “We’re pretty settled on how we’re handling it.”
  • “I’m not going to take that in, but I hear you.”

For the chronic offender (someone who keeps coming back)

  • “We’ve talked about this- we’re not changing course.”
  • “I’ve let you know this isn’t something I want input on.”

The subject-change version

  • “Mmm. Anyway…” (and move on)
  • “Noted.” (full stop)

Resources Mentioned on the Podcast

Listen on the Podcast

This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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The Framework That Works on Everyone in the Room {EP 263}


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Whether you’re supporting a dysregulated eight-year-old, a parent who’s convinced nothing is working, or the version of yourself driving home after a really hard week, the science is exactly the same. Let’s look at how the theory underneath this podcast, Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors, and the BBTI’s Professional Immersion Program are grounded in the same unified relational neuroscience framework. This paradigm supports your work with kids, parents, and yourself. You only have to learn it once, because it scales!

This is the second episode in a row I’ve recorded for professionals and helpers. Next week, we’ll be back with episodes for parents! (Of course, anyone can listen to all of them!)

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why the nervous system framework that explains kids’ behavior is the exact same one that explains parents’ behavior…and yours
  • What it actually means to “be the owl” as a professional, and why that is the intervention
  • Why your reactions to clients aren’t failures of professionalism. Their information, and getting curious about them makes you a better helper

Resources Mentioned on the Podcast

Listen to the Podcast

This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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