Setting Boundaries That Stick with Juliane Taylor Shore and Therapist Uncensored {EP 185}


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Something new and unexpected here on The Baffling Behavior Show!

This episode is actually from the Therapist Uncensored Podcast with Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley. Sue and Ann interviewed one of y’alls FAVORITES- Juliane Taylor Shore.

Juliane was on The Baffling Behavior Show a long time ago, talking about psychological boundaries and verbal aggression. This is one of my most played episodes EVER.

Juliane just published a new book on boundaries so when Sue and Ann asked if I wanted to do a podcast feed swap, I knew y’all would LOVE to hear from Juliane.

In this episode, you’ll hear Sue and Ann interview Juliane all about Setting Boundaries that Stick. 

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How To Care Less About What Other People Think! {EP 184}


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Parents of kids with baffling behaviors are CONSTANTLY being judged by others.

How do we get to a point where we don’t care as much about what other people think?

In this episode, we’ll explore:

  • Some of the most common judgments that parents of kids with baffling behaviors receive
  • How it’s actually not possible to not care at all, but we can care LESS
  • Three things we can do so that the judgment from others doesn’t impact us as much as it does now

Script for setting a boundary with folks who are expressing judgment:

I know you love me and care about me. I’m so grateful.

When my child is dysregulated, what I need from you is: 

  • To quietly slip away 
  • Bring me a drink
  • Make sure we’re all safe but then step away. 

I know you’re worried about us. I’m worried too. I’ve learned a lot about behavior and what’s causing these issues and feel good about the approach we’re taking. Sometimes it’s really really hard and I need your support.

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Is Watchdog and Possum Behavior Always Protective? {EP 183}


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Do the Watchdog and Possum pathway only activate in protection mode? Are they always protective?

NO! It is possible to have safe and connected Watchdog energy, and safe and connected Possum energy!

Why does this distinction matter?

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • What safe and connected watchdog energy feels like
  • What safe and connected possum energy feels like
  • Why it’s important to remember we aren’t trying to get rid of the watchdog or the possum- we are trying to help them rest and only work hard when they need to

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There Is Nothing Wrong With You! With Guest Janet Nordine {EP 182}


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Janet Nordine is a registered play therapist, adoptee, and mental health activist working tirelessly to improve children’s mental health services, specifically in the state of Nevada. 

Janet has an important message for adoptees that I think is relevant to all kids and families who are supporting kids with vulnerable nervous systems:

There is nothing wrong with you. You’ve done nothing wrong. You can be OK.

In this episode, explore

  • How to help create ‘good parent messages’ for children who feel unloved and unwanted
  • Sitting with two conflicting feelings at once 
  • The benefits of falling in love with yourself

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What’s The Connected Response To Difficult Behaviors? {EP 181}


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What’s the connected response to {insert difficult behavior here}??

How do I respond to {insert difficult behavior here} in a connected way???

I get some version of this question almost every day. So, let’s answer it here on the podcast!

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • What most parents are really asking when they ask ‘hat’s the connected response’?
  • What a connected response really is
  • How to trust your own intuition to answer that question

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What’s Up With Regression? {EP 180}


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It’s normal and common for stress and dysregulation to cause kids to act younger than they really are. This happens to grown-ups too! Simply because it’s normal and common doesn’t mean it’s not very frustrating!

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • A neurosequential explanation for regression
  • How to use regression as a cue or a clue about the state your child’s nervous system
  • Ways to respond to regressed behavior that may increase regulation, connection, and felt safety

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Is Regulated The Goal? {EP 179}


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I’m sure you often feel like ‘getting your kid regulated’ is a very important goal!

But- is it? Is regulated the goal? And is it possible to even consider these kinds of questions when we are parenting very dysregulated kids with very dangerous behaviors?

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The difference between a moment of being regulated and having a regulated (balanced) nervous system
  • How regulation and dysregulation must coexist
  • Why thinking about any of this high-level stuff when you have REAL PROBLEMS TO REALLY ADDRESS can be helpful

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EVERYONE Has A Watchdog And Possum Brain! {EP 178}


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Believe it or not, we don’t want to get rid of our kids’ watchdog and possum brains!

We want to help their watchdog and possum brain rest so they aren’t working so hard.

Their watchdog and possum brains are overworked and overactive.

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • Why we must remember that everyone has a watchdog and possum brain
  • How gratitude and acceptance of the watchdog and possum brain strengthens the owl brain
  • We don’t want to get rid of our children’s Wa1tchdog and Possum brains- we want to help them rest

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Why Possums Sometimes Become Watchdogs {EP 177}


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When I work with parents whose child spends a lot of time on the possum pathway, I warn them that sometimes possum kids become watchdog kids before the finally have a nice, strong owl brain.

Because watchdog behaviors are often more intense and scarier than possum behaviors, this can feel like your child is ‘getting worse.’

It’s actually a sign of healing, and here’s why!

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • Why kids who have a lot of possum behavior can sometimes become kids who have a lot of watchdog behavior
  • Why this phenomenon usually means there is progress and healing happening
  • Why do sometimes kids move from Possum behaviors to Owl behaviors without having Watchdog behaviors

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Feel Better, Even If Nothing Changes {EP 176}


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Is it possible to feel better even if your child’s behavior doesn’t change?

Even if the stress doesn’t change?

Theoretically, yes.

Your chronic watchdog or possum state means you are in chronic protection mode. Is it possible to shift out of protection mode before the chaos in your life changes?

That’s exactly what we address in today’s episode!

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The two different paths you can take to feel better (come out of protection mode) even if the chaos in your life never changes
  • The neuroscience behind how connection and co-regulation (for you!) becomes twice as important for your ability to stay more regulated even when things are really hard
  • Resources to help you feel better (shift out of protection) that you can do by yourself, as well as resources that are based in connection and co-regulation

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