A Brain-Based Way to Understand Baffling Behavior {EP 221}


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Could you use a short refresher about what I mean when I say your child’s “owl brain flew away”? Or do you know someone who is willing to listen to a short explanation of how you’re approaching your child’s baffling behaviors?

In this episode, I revisit – briefly what behavior really is and the owl, watchdog, and possum brain metaphor. I explain why it’s such a helpful way to understand your child’s baffling behaviors. I also talk about what actually helps those protective brains calm down so the owl can return.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • What the owl, watchdog, and possum brains really represent in your child’s behavior
  • How to recognize which brain state is in charge
  • Why our goal isn’t to fix the behavior but to offer regulation, connection, and safety

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Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Mini Pep-Talk for When You Feel Like You’re Failing {EP 220}


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If you’ve clicked on this episode because you’re feeling like you’re failing at parenting, at keeping it together, at helping your child, I’m really glad you’re here.

Because first, I want you to know this: you’re not failing. You’re doing something incredibly hard. Parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system, whether your child has been impacted by trauma, or has sensory differences, or just has a brain wired a little differently, is extremely intensive parenting. 

I created this episode so you can:

  • Easily return to it when you need a ‘mini pep talk’
  • Listen in a short period of time- I know I’m usually a little long winded
  • Be reminded as often as you need: this isn’t your fault. You’re not failing

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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20 Non-Therapy Therapeutic Interventions {EP 219}


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If your kid refuses therapy, what other options are there?

Or maybe they don’t refuse therapy, but you’d still like to increase the therapeutic support for your child and family.

Here are 20 different non-therapy therapeutic supports based on Dr. Perry’s work of ‘moments of healing’ and experiences that are rhythmic, repetitive, relational, and somatosensory!

Download the full list of 20 by CLICKING HERE so you don’t have to take notes!

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Questions To Ask a Potential Therapist! {EP 218}


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Have you ever wondered what types of questions you should ask a new therapist to assess how well they understand behaviors through the lens of the nervous system?

No need to take notes during this episode, I created downloadable handouts you can access with just one click. Listen to the episode then head over to my website!

PLEASE NOTE. These are suggestions. Please vet your professionals thoroughly. I’m certain there are many important questions left off of this list. I’m also certain there are many excellent trainings that I did not include in the list of potential trainings. Also, even if a therapist meets all the criteria, that doesn’t mean they are the right therapist for your family. Even someone trained with me isn’t necessarily the therapist or professional that is right for you. 

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • Questions you can ask a therapist to get a feel for how well they conceptualize behaviors through the lens of the nervous system
  • Red flags to pay attention to
  • Trainings on a therapist’s resume that suggest they conceptualize behavior through the lens of ‘all behavior makes sense.’

You don’t have to take notes!

Download the list of questions to ask a potential new therapist by CLICKING HERE.

Download the list of trainings a therapist may have taken that suggest they conceptualize behavior through the lens of the nervous system by CLICKING HERE

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Co-Regulating? Or Masking? {EP 217}


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Kids with vulnerable nervous systems need more co-regulation than other kids their age and yes it’s exhausting.

Did you know it’s possible to be GOOD exhausted and not just BAD exhausted?!?! 

It’s you’re chronically exhausted, you’re probably not doing as much co-regulation as you are masking how dysregulated you are.

And hey- no judgment here! This is very explicitly a no-judgment episode. I don’t want you to feel bad or even try to do anything different.

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The difference between co-regulating and masking
  • How doing something really hard (like co-regulating a child with a vulnerable nervous system day in and day out) means that YOU need more connection and co-regulation, too!
  • That you don’t need to try to do anything different right now, it’s too much work to do anything different. In this episode, I’ll just ask you to notice- without judgment

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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“On Purpose” Behavior {EP 216}


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Have you ever wondered how those behaviors that feel ‘on purpose’ fit into this nervous system approach?

They feel so intentional! Like there is so much Owl-brain thought involved.

But they certainly aren’t behaviors of connection!!!

This episode will:

  • Demystify ‘on purpose’ behaviors
  • Remind you to always consider regulation, connection, and felt safety…then strategize how to respond to those ‘on purpose’ behaviors accordingly

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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The #1 Ingredient of Self-Regulation {EP 215}


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Monitoring and modifying are the two essential elements of regulation. ~ Dr. Dan Siegel

When we really understand what makes up the skill of self-regulation, we can be more intentional about helping our kids develop those skills.

We can also be more understanding and compassionate when they aren’t able to use those skills!

This episode explores the skills of monitoring (noticing) and modifying (changing) our level of arousal and activation as the main ingredients of self-regulation.

Remember that self-regulation can only develop with enough co-regulation. But once there is a strong foundation of co-regulation, we can encourage our kids to develop the skills to notice and change (when appropriate or needed!) their level of arousal. 

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The main ingredients of self-regulation- monitor & modify
  • How to scaffold up to teaching kids to monitor and modify
  • How to have appropriate expectations about your child’s ability to monitor and modify, even after they have learned the skills

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Helping Kids with Medical Trauma with Rose LaPiere {EP 214}


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Medical trauma can feel confusing because in many circumstances, we are seeking out the very medical interventions that our kids experience as traumatic. 

Trauma is in the eye of the beholder. Some kids experience trauma due to their time in the NICU. Some kids experience trauma at the dentist. Some kids experience trauma due to an emergency or accident. 

Much of the time, parents feel helpless or even guilty for ‘causing’ the trauma. 

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • How medical treatment can have a traumatic impact
  • How to help kids make sense of confusing medical treatment
  • A couple of ideas for how to help kids prepare for medical treatment

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This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Google, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Resentment & Parenting {EP 213}


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Resentment. We’ve all felt it.

Very little about this parenting journey has gone according to plan.

We’ve done the hard work- the never-ending work actually – of rewiring everything we thought we knew about behavior, what it means to be human, how to parent, and how to have a family.

Some days we do it without a second thought.

Some days are full of resentment and anger.

You aren’t a bad person. But resentment feels bad! 

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The very important job that resentment does for you
  • A message that resentment might be trying to tell you
  • The importance of staying curious – and not shaming – about the feeling of resentment

Resources Mentioned on the Podcast

Listen on the Podcast

This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Google, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Are We Just Rewarding Bad Behavior? {EP 212}


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One of the harder things to navigate when shifting to a nervous system lens on behavior is the feeling that a lot of the strategies seem like they are rewarding bad behavior.

Strategies that invite regulation, connection, and felt safety are usually strategies that feel good.

If our kids feel good after bad behavior, will they have MORE bad behavior??

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • What it might be signaling if you’re wondering if you’re rewarding bad behavior
  • How to avoid unintentionally increasing the likelihood of dysregulation in the future
  • Why it’s reallllllly important to offer connection, co-regulation and felt safety strategies when you are in connection mode

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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