Hard? Too Hard? For PARENTS! {EP 211}


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We talk a lot about hard very too hard for your kids (thanks Amanda Diekman for that hard vs. too hard language!).

But have you considered applying that concept to yourself? 

This is intensive parenting! Far beyond when parenting is supposed to get less intensive, you’re still giving super-hero level scaffolding, supervision and co-regulation – and it’s a LOT!

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • How to assess for when it’s just TOO hard- for YOU!
  • The importance of making an owl-brain decision about things being too hard (or not)
  • Ways to increase support at the same time as you lower demands for yourself 

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Robyn

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Sabotage and Being Set Up {EP 210}


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It’s very common to feel like our kids are either intentionally sabotaging good things or that they are purposefully setting us up to be mad or disappointed or to have to say no. 

You aren’t imagining this phenomenon!

All humans do it, but our kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors may seem like they do it more often.

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The neuroscience behind WHY our kids sabotage situations or set us up to be dysregulated
  • What they are really doing (and it’s actually full of hope)
  • How we might respond differently that could actually change their brain

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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No One Is Coming To Save Us {EP 209}


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It took me a looooooong time to really truly believe and understand that- no one is coming to save me.

I had to do the hard work to take responsibility for my own triggers, my own nervous system, my own change. This only happened after oodles and oodles of safety, connection, and co-regulation.

Maybe you, like me, have held onto the hope that someone else will fix this. Your child will change, you’ll get the services you need, something will happen and everything will get better. 

Maybe this journey through some of the intimate moments of my own healing journey can assist you on your’s.

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Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Bravely Being With Grief with Rose LaPiere {EP 208}


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Rose LaPiere LPC, RPT-S, and ACS invites into a space of safety and connection so we can make room for grief. Rose brings her own experiences of grief to her work as a play therapist (and co-leader in Robyn’s immersive training program for parenting professionals, the Professional Immersion Program {formerly Being With}) so she can bravely welcome in, and be with, her client’s big, at times overwhelming, feelings. 

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The importance of authenticity, naming, and acknowledge even really really hard feelings
  • The role of playfulness is processing grief
  • The importance of self compassion for the grown-ups and therapists supporting kids and families in their grief

Resources Mentioned on the Podcast

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Is It Time to Raise the Bar? {EP 207}


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You’ve lowered stress and demands. You’ve reframed your child’s behavior as a response from their autonomic nervous system. You’ve worked hard to help your child’s stress response system rest and begin to heal

Now what?

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • How rest is only one part of the healing process
  • The importance of reintroducing stress
  • The difference between stress that prompts growth and stress that leads to injury and burn-out

Resources Mentioned on the Podcast

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Punishment Free Parenting with Jon Fogel {EP 206}


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Jon Fogel is a dad who combined his passions for parenting, neuroscience, and impacting the world to create a viral social media account (@wholeparent) and then publish his book, Punishment-Free Parenting. 

Jon and I get lost in some pretty deep topics together, including 

  • How he helps parents make huge parenting shifts
  • How parenting with punishment relies on a pretty pessimistic view of humanity
  • Boundaries vs. Consequences vs. Punishments

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

  • Punishment Free Parenting by Jon Fogel
  • Jon’s Instagram: Whole Parent

Dive into these topics further on past Baffling Behavior Show episodes

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Scaffolding Felt Safety {EP 205}


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How do we help kids feel safe when they are safe? How do we help them take in the safety that exists in their life when their life experiences seem to have convinced them that nothing is safe. 

Scaffolding. Yes, we can scaffold felt safety.

My recovery from a very serious back injury left me pondering the importance of felt safety in taking risks and the necessity of scaffolding felt safety. 

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The importance of relationship in felt safety
  • How even felt safety must be scaffolded for folx who don’t have a lot of experience being safe in relationship
  • How amazing it is that our hurt kids risk relationship at all, and how it makes sense that sometimes they won’t

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This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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The Way of Play with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson {EP 204}


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Play makes kids stronger. It’s necessary for their physical and emotional development, and even their academic development. Play helps kids work through and make sense of hard things. 

A few months ago I went searching for a resource that teaches parents some of skills I used as a play therapist because I am passionate about breaking down barriers and teaching these skills to as many adults as possible- not just therapists. 

Tina Payne Bryson’s newest book (co-authored with Georgie Wisen-Vincent), The Way of Play, is exactly this resource. 

It was a delight to connect with Dr. Payne Bryson and get a sneak peek into her new book, The Way of Play.

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • Why play is so important
  • The 7 strategies in PlayStrong Parenting
  • How to Bring Emotions to Life
  • How to Make Yourself a Mirror

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

Listen on the Podcast

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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An Underwhelming Grand Reveal! {EP 203}


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To be 100% honest, we forgot to record a podcast for this week. Luckily, I have stepped in to fill the podcast void and to make my grand reveal!

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • What my voice sounds like!
  • Why we didn’t get a new episode out for y’all.

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This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Google, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Low-Demand Holidays {EP 202}


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We think a lot about how to lower demands for our kids, but in this episode we’re going to talk about how we can lower demands for ourselves, specifically during the holiday season.

Regardless of where you live in the world and what holidays you do or don’t celebrate, it’s hard to avoid the extra stress that comes in December.

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • How to look at traditions or expectations and consider which ones to prioritize
  • How to increase felt safety- for you and your kids- at holiday events, travel, or expectations
  • How to set boundaries 
  • How to offer yourself compassion if setting boundaries feels really hard

Listen on the Podcast

This blog is a short summary of a longer episode on The Baffling Behavior Show podcast.

Find The Baffling Behavior Show podcast on Apple Podcast, Google, Spotify, or in your favorite podcast app.

Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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