Questions To Ask a Potential Therapist! {EP 218}


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Have you ever wondered what types of questions you should ask a new therapist to assess how well they understand behaviors through the lens of the nervous system?

No need to take notes during this episode, I created downloadable handouts you can access with just one click. Listen to the episode then head over to my website!

PLEASE NOTE. These are suggestions. Please vet your professionals thoroughly. I’m certain there are many important questions left off of this list. I’m also certain there are many excellent trainings that I did not include in the list of potential trainings. Also, even if a therapist meets all the criteria, that doesn’t mean they are the right therapist for your family. Even someone trained with me isn’t necessarily the therapist or professional that is right for you. 

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • Questions you can ask a therapist to get a feel for how well they conceptualize behaviors through the lens of the nervous system
  • Red flags to pay attention to
  • Trainings on a therapist’s resume that suggest they conceptualize behavior through the lens of ‘all behavior makes sense.’

You don’t have to take notes!

Download the list of questions to ask a potential new therapist by CLICKING HERE.

Download the list of trainings a therapist may have taken that suggest they conceptualize behavior through the lens of the nervous system by CLICKING HERE

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Robyn

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Co-Regulating? Or Masking? {EP 217}


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Kids with vulnerable nervous systems need more co-regulation than other kids their age and yes it’s exhausting.

Did you know it’s possible to be GOOD exhausted and not just BAD exhausted?!?! 

It’s you’re chronically exhausted, you’re probably not doing as much co-regulation as you are masking how dysregulated you are.

And hey- no judgment here! This is very explicitly a no-judgment episode. I don’t want you to feel bad or even try to do anything different.

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The difference between co-regulating and masking
  • How doing something really hard (like co-regulating a child with a vulnerable nervous system day in and day out) means that YOU need more connection and co-regulation, too!
  • That you don’t need to try to do anything different right now, it’s too much work to do anything different. In this episode, I’ll just ask you to notice- without judgment

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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“On Purpose” Behavior {EP 216}


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Have you ever wondered how those behaviors that feel ‘on purpose’ fit into this nervous system approach?

They feel so intentional! Like there is so much Owl-brain thought involved.

But they certainly aren’t behaviors of connection!!!

This episode will:

  • Demystify ‘on purpose’ behaviors
  • Remind you to always consider regulation, connection, and felt safety…then strategize how to respond to those ‘on purpose’ behaviors accordingly

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Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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The #1 Ingredient of Self-Regulation {EP 215}


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Monitoring and modifying are the two essential elements of regulation. ~ Dr. Dan Siegel

When we really understand what makes up the skill of self-regulation, we can be more intentional about helping our kids develop those skills.

We can also be more understanding and compassionate when they aren’t able to use those skills!

This episode explores the skills of monitoring (noticing) and modifying (changing) our level of arousal and activation as the main ingredients of self-regulation.

Remember that self-regulation can only develop with enough co-regulation. But once there is a strong foundation of co-regulation, we can encourage our kids to develop the skills to notice and change (when appropriate or needed!) their level of arousal. 

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The main ingredients of self-regulation- monitor & modify
  • How to scaffold up to teaching kids to monitor and modify
  • How to have appropriate expectations about your child’s ability to monitor and modify, even after they have learned the skills

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Helping Kids with Medical Trauma with Rose LaPiere {EP 214}


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Medical trauma can feel confusing because in many circumstances, we are seeking out the very medical interventions that our kids experience as traumatic. 

Trauma is in the eye of the beholder. Some kids experience trauma due to their time in the NICU. Some kids experience trauma at the dentist. Some kids experience trauma due to an emergency or accident. 

Much of the time, parents feel helpless or even guilty for ‘causing’ the trauma. 

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • How medical treatment can have a traumatic impact
  • How to help kids make sense of confusing medical treatment
  • A couple of ideas for how to help kids prepare for medical treatment

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Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Resentment & Parenting {EP 213}


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Resentment. We’ve all felt it.

Very little about this parenting journey has gone according to plan.

We’ve done the hard work- the never-ending work actually – of rewiring everything we thought we knew about behavior, what it means to be human, how to parent, and how to have a family.

Some days we do it without a second thought.

Some days are full of resentment and anger.

You aren’t a bad person. But resentment feels bad! 

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The very important job that resentment does for you
  • A message that resentment might be trying to tell you
  • The importance of staying curious – and not shaming – about the feeling of resentment

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Are We Just Rewarding Bad Behavior? {EP 212}


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One of the harder things to navigate when shifting to a nervous system lens on behavior is the feeling that a lot of the strategies seem like they are rewarding bad behavior.

Strategies that invite regulation, connection, and felt safety are usually strategies that feel good.

If our kids feel good after bad behavior, will they have MORE bad behavior??

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • What it might be signaling if you’re wondering if you’re rewarding bad behavior
  • How to avoid unintentionally increasing the likelihood of dysregulation in the future
  • Why it’s reallllllly important to offer connection, co-regulation and felt safety strategies when you are in connection mode

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Hard? Too Hard? For PARENTS! {EP 211}


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We talk a lot about hard very too hard for your kids (thanks Amanda Diekman for that hard vs. too hard language!).

But have you considered applying that concept to yourself? 

This is intensive parenting! Far beyond when parenting is supposed to get less intensive, you’re still giving super-hero level scaffolding, supervision and co-regulation – and it’s a LOT!

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • How to assess for when it’s just TOO hard- for YOU!
  • The importance of making an owl-brain decision about things being too hard (or not)
  • Ways to increase support at the same time as you lower demands for yourself 

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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Sabotage and Being Set Up {EP 210}


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It’s very common to feel like our kids are either intentionally sabotaging good things or that they are purposefully setting us up to be mad or disappointed or to have to say no. 

You aren’t imagining this phenomenon!

All humans do it, but our kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors may seem like they do it more often.

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The neuroscience behind WHY our kids sabotage situations or set us up to be dysregulated
  • What they are really doing (and it’s actually full of hope)
  • How we might respond differently that could actually change their brain

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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No One Is Coming To Save Us {EP 209}


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It took me a looooooong time to really truly believe and understand that- no one is coming to save me.

I had to do the hard work to take responsibility for my own triggers, my own nervous system, my own change. This only happened after oodles and oodles of safety, connection, and co-regulation.

Maybe you, like me, have held onto the hope that someone else will fix this. Your child will change, you’ll get the services you need, something will happen and everything will get better. 

Maybe this journey through some of the intimate moments of my own healing journey can assist you on your’s.

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Or, you can read the entire transcript of the episode by scrolling down and clicking ‘transcript.’

Robyn

Author of National Best Selling Book (including audiobook) Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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